Day 179 of 365: Blog Challenge 2012

Hello all

This morning as the rain poured down, I wanted to pull the covers over my head and stay in bed! Oh, it was so tempting but I knew, even as I snuggled in, it was not for me.

There was a strong force pushing me ever onwards to things I needed to do and I hurled myself from the bed. Well, in fact, I sat dazed for a while on the edge and ‘thought‘ about hurling myself from the bed, but eventually it did happen!

You see, I belong to a monthly Book Club at the local library and it  was two months since I had attended. It was time for me to re-engage with my Book Club friends and escape the rain and the cold by putting it out of my mind and moving on with the day.

When I parked near the Library, I saw in the distance  a large billboard which captured my attention. On the left-hand side was a woman (looking miserable) and holding something in her hand and in large letters nearby were written the words:

WHO SAYS YOU CAN’T LET IT GO?”

Convinced I was dealing with something ‘deep and meaningful’ I walked  – out of my way – toward the billboard to see what it was all about. Now, normal people would not do this. No, only those who are too curious for their own good would make such an effort. Besides, the rain has meant I have not been walking so it was an excuse for a little exercise.

I was none the wiser when I got close enough to see that the woman was holding a number of  gold chains all tangled up and looking a bit messy.  Oh, it was frustrating so I went even closer. There on the bottom in small writing was written …  “Cash Converters.”

“How disappointing” I thought. As I walked back toward the Library I began to think about that message. For me it was about ‘ letting IT go’ … with ‘IT’ as the operative word. I wondered to myself “what is IT that I find hard to let go of?

I was interrupted by the Book Club meeting which was, as usual, wonderful and engaging and full of people sharing thoughts and ideas about the book of the month. Over a cuppa and biscuits we laugh and argue and talk about the books we have been reading. Then, those who wish, go off to lunch in a nearby cafe.

I was so glad I had hurled myself out of that bed as I ‘let IT (my comfort) go’ as I made the effort to go out.

It is interesting folks, to see how the ‘sliding doors effect’ can change what happens in your day. Going out to the Book Club was good for me and besides, I found myself a topic for my blog into the bargain. This is how the world goes round!

SO … WHO SAYS YOU CAN’T LET IT GO?

Who indeed? And what exactly  is the ‘IT‘ that you cannot let go of? More to the point, what is ‘IT’ that I  cannot  let go of? First of all, you need to identify what that ‘IT’ is … then you have to deal with it.

What comes to mind for me concerns friendships. Sometimes, we’ve had a friend for so long that we think it is loyalty to keep the friendship going, even though it is no longer working.

This has always been my thinking, but I was really thrown a couple of years ago as I struggled to hang on to my friend of 37 years who was behaving very bizarrely indeed and who could not see the problem. I have written about this early in my blogging days and I will not elaborate again, except to say that when I realised I had to ‘LET  ‘IT’ (the friendship) GO‘ it hurt like hell! Yet I knew it was the right thing to do.

Since coming home today I have done some investigating and I found this piece on letting go of a friendship which really spoke to me:

“Sadly, there are friendships we may want or need to let go of, as there are friends who may want or need to let go of us. As difficult as it may be to accept sometimes, it is the normal evolution of things.”

It has now been over two years since I have spoken to my friend and I am at peace. I have LET IT GO. It wasn’t easy and it took time. So now I need to ask you: is there any friendships that YOU need to let go of? If there is, do not be disheartened for it happens to the best of us. But, there are may be OTHER things in your life that you need to LET GO OF’. If so, consider this carefully. It may be a sign to let go if:

“You catch yourself obsessing over, and living in, the past. – Eventually you will overcome the heartache, and forget the reasons you cried, and who caused the pain.”

If this is you, you may need help! It will take time to sort through all the emotions connected to what happened but I have found that as time goes on, pieces of the jigsaw puzzle begin to fit into place and you will gain insight into what went wrong.

Time does heal if you “let go of the past, set yourself free, and open your mind to the possibility of new relationships and priceless experiences.”

In conclusion I will leave you with the concept of what NOT to let go of: do not let go of  HOPE.

Keep pushing forward my friends.  Remember that someday all the pieces will come together.  Believe that unimaginably good things will transpire in your life if you give it time. Even if everything doesn’t turn out exactly the way you had anticipated, know that you have done the best you could.

Be willing to see that sometimes in life we must “accept less than we wish were possible” and smile knowing that we are letting ‘IT’ go one bit  at a time …

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